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Wednesday, March 21, 2007

A Few Conflicts

1.

SJ, the little boy, was crying in bed and I was so surprised last night. After I got what made him so sad, I was very sorry and was sad, too, like him.

He has complained for weeks that he didn't want to go to YMCA's Gym class. In fact, my wife and I was very happy that the downtown YMCA Gym was really close to home, and thought any regular exercise would be good for the kid. So we registered him to two hours a day * three days a week afternoon class, and he is learning to swim and inline-skate. (Yeah, he returns to home 1:30 pm from his kindergarten and goes to the Gym 3:00 pm.)

As for inline-skating, he's fine. He's good at it. But for swimming, he has a trouble in breathing now.

I tried to explain that it's only two weeks that he began to learn and only 6 swimming classes so far, so it's natural for him to feel some difficulties to breath like a fish, but he looked so scared to practice it anyway.

I was a little bit shocked that he said he hated three days(M/W/F)of a week due to the swimming class, and hated also the other three days(S/Tu/Th) because he had to worry about the scary swimming class in the next day. Unhappy 6 days a week. No. Actually he also said he hated Saturday because of the three-hours-long english class he began since March. So full of unhapiness.

In the end I'm not sure all of these are for him or for his parents, my wife and me.






(Spring is coming to us, regardless of whatever I'm doing, thinking,...)

2.

Very barely, I could feel a lull and another storm I'll possibly face soon and hardly avoid at work. Well, obviously and seriously I need to think about my job at the current work and my future now. I need to agree everything was changed and to wake up from a long lazy hibernation.

To be dull may be helpful. To be more aggressive may also be helpful. Hmm, making money is really hard.. How wonderful if the life can be initialized and restarted like some setop boxes.

Two more options maybe. Begining my own business again, or going to school to put something new into my brain.

I need to find what I like to do for the next 30 years-the third age- at first. I'm also considering to change the confusing blog title from routes-finding to routes-found. No joke.

(I'm still staying in the winter, but the nature is preparing for the changes in its genetics..)


3.


It's not my interests as well as not connected to my trouble, but Mar 21 is the 113th memorial day of the Donghak revolution(or upheaval) which (might be) was the first human rights declaration against the old hierarchical society in Korea..

The building in the picture is the main church of the chondogyo, a korean religion which is following to the idea of the revolution..

8 comments:

Anonymous said...

Here's some fragments of my thoughts.
1) About 1 - scaring swimming class
As you know, Alfred(JH) attended swimming class last year. Of course at the beginning he had some fear about the swimming. However he could overcome the scary swimmin, moreover enjoyed it in the end. I would like to ask you that SJ's progress of swimming class is too short or fast. If so I advice to change class which have more show progress. If not so slow - about one year - then you have to encourage him to overcome it.
I can give you a general advice because I'm not sure your son's life.

2) About 2 - about you
As the head of a family, one who is in 40's is going suffer to make money for his family except only someone if he has enough money not to worry how to live. I wonder who do not care about his life or his family.
Sometimes in my case some thoughts make me comfort like this:
"My trouble, care, worry is not only my own burdensome thing. Almost every father in family has his own anxiety. So make myself more peaceful state."

Take good care and have a good day.

Wind Stopper said...

Thanks for your advice. I think the swimming class is for young beginners and the curriculum looksb proper. It would be better to go swimming with him in the weekend, and check his trouble by myself..

Burden? Yeah,it's a burden, heavy one..

In addition, I concern about the evaluation for myself, i.e. as you said, enough money, a secure job lasting for more than 30 years for my third age, and any pleasure for the rest of my life.. a lot of what I have to think about...

Thanks anyway, and cheers..

Raphael CH Lee said...

Just like Mcchae's sequence

1. Swiming.
Both of my daughters had big fear to swimming even more wet.
Especially Gauen didn't like a few drop of water on her face.
Now swiming is one of best hobby for both.
When I heard Gauen would start swiming class, I really wondered she could follow it very seriousely but she did it eventually. I agreed to mcchae's idea step by step slow approach will be helpful.

2. You
We have same challenges at the moment. These trouble never make me happy. .....
When I feel very hard, I usually look back my past fact that
I've been facing problem all the time so far. Then I can see Nowadays are not the special. And then eventually I can fill up life-energy tank and feel comport.

I don't like reset function of my life. I understand My life has no roll-back feature,this makes my life very unique and dynamic, so its very unique.
We don't need to regret the past.
Myself is the very right one who knows myself very well.
We would better make past as a my own mentor for the future.

Cheers

Raphael CH Lee said...

One more thing.
That's good I can see you have some margin to observe coming spring. Time to go on a picnic and drink. I'm planing early of May.
Any idea?

Wind Stopper said...
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Wind Stopper said...

THANKS Rhap.

SJ said last night a different story, he's done well on last Wed. I need to watch him for the time being...

As for me..
in a sence, i don't regret my life and the past. I don't mean it.
Well, a sort of FEAR that I'm not ready for the future and the change..and I'm not able to figure out what will happen, that is, a sort of uncertainty..

Anyway,I'm trying to make me fit to the reality, and at the same time, trying to change surroundings into something I can enjoy or at least feel comfort..

Raphael CH Lee said...

I'm reading Yes or No by Spencer Johnson.
Decision making consists of two part Head and Hear.
Head is practical things which are logical, rational analizable one.
There is heart called private one on the other side.
I fully agreeded to his idea. We should make decision even we have not enought information depending on our heart.

while reading this simple book I feel pretty comport feeling even though my sorrounding has been uncertain for several years.

Anonymous said...

You write very well.